Autistic Hedgehog

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Apr 2

Please sign and signal boost this petition!

TW: ableism, homophobia, murder

‘In the early hours of the 23rd of June, Steven Simpson was set on fire by 20 year old Jordan Sheard, who had gate-crashed his house party in Cudworth, near Barnsley. He had been verbally abused, stripped of his clothes and had phrases like “I love d*ck” and “gay boy” scrawled across his body. He was then doused in tanning oil and Sheard lit his crotch with a cigarette lighter, and the flames engulfed his body. Those involved fled as Simpson’s neighbour tried desperately to put out the flames. Simpson died the next day after enduring 60% burns to his body.

Steven Simpson’s murder was the result of the hatred and humiliation caused to him because of his sexuality, and his disability. He was bullied, de-humanised and then killed. It follows the format of many killings of LGBTQ people world wide.

Sheffield Crown Court’s view on the matter has been frankly disgusting. Judge Roger Keen dismissed the crime as a ‘good-natured horseplay’ that had gone too far, and sentenced him to a unusually short sentence of three and a half years in prison. Sheard’s defence lawyer called what happened to Simpson as a ‘stupid prank that went wrong in a bad way’.

This was clearly a hate crime. Simpson was being taunted for his sexuality and his disability. He was devalued so much in the eyes of those involved, that they thought setting him on fire was somehow acceptable. He was a bright young man studying at Barnsley College, but his last moments alive on this earth must have been dehumanising, painful and terrifying.

How Judge Roger Keen can dismiss this so flippantly as “horseplay” is beyond us. He is re-enforcing the same notions that lead to Steven’s death: that homophobic bullying is fun, rather than a crime against LGBTQ people, that it is okay to mock or take advantage of someone’s disability, rather than looking out for them and treating them with respect, that setting someone on fire and burning them to death is a joke gone too far, rather than one of the inevitable consequences of the way we still treat people like Steven in our society.

It makes us sick to the stomach to think someone so young has been killed because he was different – and the frightening fact is that could have been any one of us that lives with a disability, or who is LGBTQ. Many have commented on the lenient sentencing of Steven’s killer, however I think this misses the point. The point here is the criminal justice system is complicit in the oppression of LGBTQ people and disabled people, when it makes comments like those of Judge Keen’s. It is churning out the very same ideas that lead to hate-crime.

It is not a joke, funny, or horseplay to treat someone in the way Steven was and we should not condone it as such. If we do condone this behaviour we are sending out the message that LGBTQ people and disabled people are fair game to be bullied and preyed upon. We are sending out the message that this okay for other young people to do what was done to Steven. It appears it is all okay with Judge Keen, just as long as you don’t kill someone.

But the point is, the way Steven was killed, was precisely a result of how he was treated. If he had just been treated like any other young person, with a bit of decency or respect, it would never have happened.

This is the message that Sheffield Crown Court should have put out. 

We hereby condemn Judge Keen’s remarks, call for him to make a public apology, and to make a statement recongising the daily battle people like Steven face because of their sexuality and their disability.

Steven’s death should serve as a reminder of what our LGBTQ and disabled youth face today.

https://www.change.org/petitions/office-for-judicial-complaints-judge-roger-keen-apologise-and-commit-to-protecting-lgbtq-disabled-youth

I’ve not seen much about this on Tumblr, presumably because it happened in the North of England and not in the United States, but our disabled LGBT youth are important too! I encourage people to reblog so as many people sign the petition as possible.

Apr 1

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[Simon Baron-Cohen

should step on a lego.]

Nope. No. Not okay. Go step on a lego and think about your life choices. (I think the Baron-Cohens have a large propensity for a hereditary douchebag gene. [Ie, I don’t like Sasha Baron-Cohen either.] And the scientific community should really request better rigor in autism research.)

Mod note: Simon Baron-Cohen stepping on legos is my new Happy Place. 

Apr 1
telephonoscope:

Want to support autistic people? Donate to a charity that doesn’t support eugenics, murder, fear, hatred, or death through lack of vaccinations.
 We don’t need awareness, we need acceptance.  Light it up orange. http://autismacceptancemonth.com/
 
(I made the image. Use it if you want)

telephonoscope:

Want to support autistic people? Donate to a charity that doesn’t support eugenics, murder, fear, hatred, or death through lack of vaccinations.

We don’t need awareness, we need acceptance.

Light it up orange.
http://autismacceptancemonth.com/

 

(I made the image. Use it if you want)

darkbiosphere:

Okay, first things first. I am not a guy. And my name is Regan.
Now, I can deal with ignorant people as well as the next person, but when you begin patronizing someone when they are trying to inform you about the problematic actions of a group by saying “lol” and “this is nuts”, you’re going to aggravate me.  
Do not tell Autistic people how to educate neurotypical people. Do not tell me how best to stop oppression I feel on a daily basis because it will be easier on you. Do you think you’re the first person who has done this to me? Do you think you’re the first person who has tone policed me into being polite (when YOU were being awful and degrading) to please you as an individual? No. This is something I live with every day. Because people like you expect Autistic people to be submissive and polite even when someone crosses boundaries in way of practically laughing at you when you’re trying to educate them on why something in problematic. If you wanted it to stay a conversation, you shouldn’t have jumped in like a child by laughing at me and telling me “it’s just a bear” when I explained over and over again why it is more than that.
My actions do not give people a bad view on Autistic people. God forbid an Autistic person call out something that DAMAGES their lives! How dare they be so rude and condescending to an NT person with privilege! Forgive me. As a useless, mindless, subservient Autistic person; I forgot I must face cruelty and oppression with an empty smile and acceptance to horrid behaviour.
Your actions are what make NT people look all the same. If someone treads on me and the person I am, I am not going to be polite about it. Rose, who did nothing but link you to a post they made about WHY AS is bad, was not being rude or “crazy”. They were trying to give you the resources to educate yourself. Instead, you decide to call them pathetic. Then to call me crazy. Do you see the trend here?
And here is a protip for you; Apologies do not equate forgiveness. I do not need to become your best friend because you realized you did wrong and gave me a half arsed apology. I do not need to forgive you for your actions because you said we are “alike” when obviously, we could not be more different.
As an Autistic person; I am not going to message someone privately if they are engaging and encouraging problematic and harmful behaviours. That is another silencing tactic, and I will open my big, rude mouth if need be to get my point across.
In short; you had the options to educate yourself. Instead, you became defensive with Autistic people pointed out your problematic behaviour and you made it worse for yourself. 
Don’t you dare ever think I give a bad name to Autistic people because I stuck up for myself. And don’t you ever think that for others. 
If you don’t want people to post about your atrocious behaviour, here’s an idea, change your behaviour. Don’t tell me to be more compliant. 

Relevant, considering the nonsense I’ve been getting from that anon recently.
This, right here, is a big part of why I made Autistic Hedgehog. Not just because of the constant woe-is-me sibling/parent blogs, not just because of Autism $peaks, not just because society treats us like crap. 
No, because I saw so many autistics speaking up for themselves–politely, I might add–and being called rude, and worse. Because I saw people like Goldenheartedrose, who works so hard to be kind and tactful when she educates, getting hatred again and again. Because I saw how many of us do "take the highroad" and still get treated like shit. 
AH is a safe zone for us to be angry, not just at the ignorant siblings, not just at Autism $peaks, but at people like that anon, who come in to tone police us, who won’t be happy, in truth, no matter how “nice” we are. What they really want is our silence, our complacency, and when we don’t roll over and give it, we’re “giving people a bad view of autistic people.”
No one ever cares whether they’re giving us a bad view of them. 

darkbiosphere:

Okay, first things first. I am not a guy. And my name is Regan.

Now, I can deal with ignorant people as well as the next person, but when you begin patronizing someone when they are trying to inform you about the problematic actions of a group by saying “lol” and “this is nuts”, you’re going to aggravate me.  

Do not tell Autistic people how to educate neurotypical people. Do not tell me how best to stop oppression I feel on a daily basis because it will be easier on you. Do you think you’re the first person who has done this to me? Do you think you’re the first person who has tone policed me into being polite (when YOU were being awful and degrading) to please you as an individual? No. This is something I live with every day. Because people like you expect Autistic people to be submissive and polite even when someone crosses boundaries in way of practically laughing at you when you’re trying to educate them on why something in problematic. If you wanted it to stay a conversation, you shouldn’t have jumped in like a child by laughing at me and telling me “it’s just a bear” when I explained over and over again why it is more than that.

My actions do not give people a bad view on Autistic people. God forbid an Autistic person call out something that DAMAGES their lives! How dare they be so rude and condescending to an NT person with privilege! Forgive me. As a useless, mindless, subservient Autistic person; I forgot I must face cruelty and oppression with an empty smile and acceptance to horrid behaviour.

Your actions are what make NT people look all the same. If someone treads on me and the person I am, I am not going to be polite about it. Rose, who did nothing but link you to a post they made about WHY AS is bad, was not being rude or “crazy”. They were trying to give you the resources to educate yourself. Instead, you decide to call them pathetic. Then to call me crazy. Do you see the trend here?

And here is a protip for you; Apologies do not equate forgiveness. I do not need to become your best friend because you realized you did wrong and gave me a half arsed apology. I do not need to forgive you for your actions because you said we are “alike” when obviously, we could not be more different.

As an Autistic person; I am not going to message someone privately if they are engaging and encouraging problematic and harmful behaviours. That is another silencing tactic, and I will open my big, rude mouth if need be to get my point across.

In short; you had the options to educate yourself. Instead, you became defensive with Autistic people pointed out your problematic behaviour and you made it worse for yourself. 

Don’t you dare ever think I give a bad name to Autistic people because I stuck up for myself. And don’t you ever think that for others. 

If you don’t want people to post about your atrocious behaviour, here’s an idea, change your behaviour. Don’t tell me to be more compliant. 

Relevant, considering the nonsense I’ve been getting from that anon recently.

This, right here, is a big part of why I made Autistic Hedgehog. Not just because of the constant woe-is-me sibling/parent blogs, not just because of Autism $peaks, not just because society treats us like crap. 

No, because I saw so many autistics speaking up for themselves–politely, I might add–and being called rude, and worse. Because I saw people like Goldenheartedrose, who works so hard to be kind and tactful when she educates, getting hatred again and again. Because I saw how many of us do "take the highroad" and still get treated like shit. 

AH is a safe zone for us to be angry, not just at the ignorant siblings, not just at Autism $peaks, but at people like that anon, who come in to tone police us, who won’t be happy, in truth, no matter how “nice” we are. What they really want is our silence, our complacency, and when we don’t roll over and give it, we’re “giving people a bad view of autistic people.”

No one ever cares whether they’re giving us a bad view of them. 

I Want to Make Something Abundantly Clear

To any anons who want to waltz in here and try to tell me how to behave, how to think, how to feel, how to act when people oppress me with their words, their behavior, their very ideas:

You are not starting a conversation, you’re attempting to bully and gaslight me. And I will not stand forit.

If you think for a second that I will bow and fold because you call me “mean” for standing up for myself, you’ve got another think coming. If you think you can guilt me into walking on egg shells and being nice to my abusers by telling me to take the highroad, you are enormously misguided. 

And if you think–if you imagine for the smallest second–that I will let you bully, gaslight and guilt trip my followers, you’re going to find out just how prickly this particular hedgehog can be; That which does not kill me makes me meaner, and trust me, over the years, a lot of things have tried. 

I’ve dealt with plenty of bullies. I went through bully hell and came out the other side, and you don’t scare me. I know that intimidates you. The idea of marginalized people standing up for themselves terrifies you. And if you’re going to hang around my blog to sling around anon hate, I suggest you get used to terror. I will never, ever stop defending myself against you. Ever.

You took the high road. Rolling over and letting someone crap all over you is not the high road. Calling someone out for being in the wrong without turning their wrong back on them is the high road, and that's exactly what I see in your responses.

Thank you. :)

Because obviously if we don't shut up and let people shit on us for being what we are, we're spewing hate. Clearly. :|

Anonymous

All I'm asking is that you don't call people "Ignorant" for not sharing your views? I don't care how vehemently you believe in your views or how many people share it. Just stop calling people ignorant and making fun of people. You have to take the freaking high road, god. Otherwise people can just take your posts and invalidate your entire opinion just because you were mean!

Anonymous

But you are ignorant. Far be it from me to avoid calling a spade a spade. You’re ignorant, and many people like you are ignorant.

I do NOT have to take the high road. If people are such ignorant, self-absorbed douchecanoes that they can’t handle being called out for their ignorance, intolerance and hatred, that is not MY fault. Why don’t THEY take the high road instead? Why don’t THEY stop the name-calling, the misinformation, the lies? Why don’t THEY stop calling for our elimination? It’s my responsibility to wag my tail like a puppy and barf rainbows for the people who oppress me? NO.

You tell ME to stop making fun of people? Hello, have you paid attention to a damn word that’s been said? No, of course you haven’t, you’re convinced you’re right and you think you have some sort of right to go around telling people how to feel and act when people oppress them. YOU DON’T. Am I making myself clear?

This is not about people not sharing my views. This is about people whose views are WRONG. And anyone who invalidates my opinion because I was “mean” (waaaaaaah, cry harder, losers) is a worthless sack of shit anyway.

P.S. Get the fuck out of my inbox, you’re not welcome here.

That is seriously the best response I've ever seen, well done! So they can hate us, but when we dissent, WE'RE the hateful ones?! We've taken this crap for too long, and couldn't speak out because "the autism community needs a united voice". Today I saw an anti-vaccine tweet followed by a tweet that literally said "your opinion doesn't matter, I don't give a f**k". THAT'S the "united" voice, AKA THE VOICE OF ALLISTICS THAT HATE US. I AM angry, and it's justified. Urgh. *moves planets*

I’ve been a bit surprised by how much people loved that response, but I’m glad it means something to people. Here I was just letting off some steam after a morning putting together queries. XD

More on Angry Autistics April (also my inbox ahhhhh!)

So to clarify: I know there are people already doing things for April. That’s great! Want me to signal boost it? Just give me a heads up. Want me to reblog a post you’ve written or art you’ve done? Let me know, and I’ll do it. AH has over 500 followers now (I don’t like to talk about this, it makes me uncomfortable) and some of them may not follow some of (or any of) the autism tags. If you’ve started a tag for your project, I can also signal boost that here.

We are, after all, all in this together.

But here at AH is also where the barbs comes out. That’s why I created it, after all. Thus, got something that makes you angry and want to turn it into a hedgehog meme? Awesome! You can even send me the text if you want and I can make the meme itself for you.

Want to write something? Rant about anti-vaxxers, Autism $peaks, Simon Baron-Cohen, the inane things your mom says about your autism, etc. etc.? Cool! If you want, you can submit them here for April. Especially if you’d like to write something but don’t want to deal with people bugging you about it or friends or family finding out about it–just let me know and I can post it anonymously for you. (And if your anon article gets any anon hate, I can give them a verbal beatdown for you. Or just delete it. Your choice.) 

Several years back, when I was still on Twitter, I encountered a woman who wanted to do something for Autism Awareness Month. Being autistic myself, I offered to be interviewed. She seemed to think this was a great idea and was very eager–and then I heard nothing from her again. Not a single word. Not even a “sorry, life happened, don’t have the time now” sort of message. Nada. 

I’ve been frustrated ever since with how much “Autism Awareness Month” has nothing to do with actual autistics and I know I’m not the only one who feels that frustration. So I want to gather up our expressions of that frustration–from the “speak softly and carry a big stick” variety, to the mildly annoyed, to the pissed as all fucking hell–here, on AH. I’ve already seen quite a few different plans people have. My hope is not only to have my own content, but to keep track of what else is going on, and thus help others keep track.

Hopefully that makes my intentions clearer.

(And I know there is stuff in my inbox! What else is new? It’s sitting there mainly because it’s stuff I have to think carefully about, and sometimes that can take a long time. My apologies, I will get to it.)