Hey, Hedgehog, I have an odd question for you. One of my very favorite people is an asexual Aspie, and almost ever since I found out she was one and she started educating me about ASD people, I've referred to myself as "Neurotypical as fuck." Since Autistics tend to be very literal- minded (my buddy knew immediately that I meant it figuratively but she's worked her ASS off to be able to understand NTs), would it be considered offensive/implying that ASD people don't have sex? Or am I paranoid?
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“Neurotypical as fuck” here. Just wanted to add that I love my friend not “in spite of” her autism but really *because* of it. It’s a fundamental part of her personality and she wouldn’t be *her* without it. And losing *any* part of her would be absolutely unbearable. She’s one of the people I love most and I would never *ever* want to take away part of what makes her *her*. A$ is full of *despicable* people who want to change someone I love. She doesn’t *need* changing. She’s awesome.
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Well, there may be those who will take it offensively. We’re all different, and some of us more easily get when something is meant figuratively rather than literally. You’ll also find that some of us get it most of the time but not all the time, or half the time, or any combination. Since a lot of us are exposed to the internet these days and various forms of “whatever as fuck” I think you’ll find that most autistics understand what you mean, but it’s hard to know for sure ahead of time.
If you’re really concerned that you might hurt someone’s feelings, err on the side of caution and try to only use it around your friend. If you do find yourself in a situation where you’ve offended someone with it, apologize. While I do think the majority of us will get what you mean (we really are so many levels of spectra, and that includes things like literalness and sexuality) a little care for our feelings doesn’t hurt.