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Correct me if I’m wrong, b/c I’m just going by my own feelings here, but I always prefer (and I imagine other autistic would too) direct questions about whether or not something will offend me. What is difficult is when i think people are saying one thing bu mean another, or if I think they wanted to say something but are censoring themselves. I am much more likely to get nervous. But I won’t be offended if someone just bluntly says “Does ___ offend you?”. Like, not even stuff that pertains (p1)
(p2) strictly to autism, just in life in general. I would always prefer someone to ask exactly what they want or what they are curious about or if I do or do not want something.
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Honesty and straightforwardness generally is preferable to me, as well, and under most circumstances I really just want people to say what they mean.
Though, in terms of things that are autism-specific, I don’t like it when people use it as an excuse to poke and pry, either. Asking if something offends me is one thing, but going through a laundry list of possibilities one right after the other tends to feel a bit skeevy.
