Autistic Hedgehog

Hey there. My name is Nicky and I just wanted some advice when dealing with someone with autism. My father and my brother have autism or at least traits. It's starting to get hard to deal with because they both gang up on me, laugh at me and make fun of me and they don't seem to understand when to stop. I keep telling them to stop, talking to them, explaining it to them but they don't seem to get it. I could really use some help. Thank you

Anonymous

Hi Nicky,

I always find these ones a bit sticky, because it’s hard to tell if these is an autism problem, a male privilege problem, or a little bit of both. Even when we sometimes miss cues and don’t understand why something hurt someone, most of us can understand once it’s explained. That they won’t stop makes me suspect it runs deeper than just the autism.

Regardless of what’s causing it, it’s not okay. It’s hard to know what exactly might work without knowing them for myself, but do you ever just get angry with them? Yell at them or stop talking to them altogether? If the autism is playing a part in this at all, then one thing you’ll find with a lot of us is that actions speak louder than words. Let them see how upset you are. Has anyone ever told you that you shouldn’t be firm or even angry with them simply because they’re autistic? Because that’s wrong. We can do bad things too, and autism is not a get out of jerk free card.

Again, it’s hard to give advice in situations like these because I don’t have a little information, and I’m sorry I can’t help more. But whatever else you do, don’t let them push you around because they have autism.

Posted 2 years ago

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